I have a couple of questions for you..
Are you worthy? Or working to be? Are you repentant? Or trying to be? Are you working towards eternal goals? Or making them? Are you doing your best in being righteous in all aspects of your life? Are you honest in all your doings? Are you following the honor code? Are you doing your best in following the honor code? Are you trying?
If you can answer no to any of these questions, then you shouldn’t be here.
You’re being disrespectful. You’re being selfish. You don’t deserve to be here.
Harsh? Probably. Oh well, it’s the truth. There are far too many students here breaking every rule possible and getting away and being okay with it, well i’m not.
Students forget that member’s tithing goes to support and fund this school. We pay HALF of what any of us would ever pay at another school. We are so blessed. The school doesn’t ask much from us in return to cheap tuition, cheap housing and unlimited helpful resources.
Be honest. Live a chaste and virtuous life. Obey the law and all campus policies. Use clean language. Respect others. Participate regularly in church services. Observe dress and grooming standards. Abstain from alcoholic beverages, tobacco, tea, coffee and substance abuse. Encourage others in their commitment to comply with the honor code.
Multiple semesters i’ve been up here roommates would constantly break the rules. They would have boys in their room with the door closed, boys sleeping over and just a lot of big no no’s. None of them respected the schools rules or our comfort or safety.
When i approached them they were all quick to be defensive and rude. Each would point out all my flaws and mistakes while not looking at their own. None of them chose to listen to my plea for these things to stop.
If you think your disrespectful actions aren’t hurting or effecting anyone else…
then you shouldn’t be here.
Go to another school, pay more tuition just to live by your own rules, no one cares if you’re here or not unless you’re obeying and respecting the honor code.
Don’t be that person who puts their roommates, friends, classmates or ward members in uncomfortable position. Be aware. Be careful. Be mindful. Be kind. Be respectful.
But DON’T be here if you’re not ready to uphold your standards and your obligations.
If you have a roommate like this first try to talk to them, try to calmly and kindly explain that you’re uncomfortable with their actions and ask them to stop. Best case scenario is that they stop, they’re not weird or rude about it and you move on from the situation without having to re confront that issue.
Usually things aren’t best case scenario unfortunately.
If this doesn’t work try talking to your other roommates. See what they have to say if they have the same concerns. Talk together to try and figure out the best route for the problem. If you all talk to her and she still doesn’t listen then you have to take it to the next person.
You can talk to your bishop they are there to help you. They will guide and direct you in the path that you all need to take to have a safe home environment. Every bishop is different but in my cases the girls were just talked to and the problem was resolved (no ones got kicked out so far) but like i said it depends on your bishop.
*DO NOT go to the manager. They don’t do anything, the person committing the violation of the rules will get a scare but no punishment whatsoever letting them get away with it over and over again.
If the bishop doesn’t help or if he does but nothing changes, go to the honor code office on campus. You can contact them by going in the office, phone or email. You explain to them what’s going on and they take appropriate action (this is where people get kicked out, they take things seriously).
So i hope none of you have to go through what I’ve been through with roommates.
FUTURE BYU-I STUDENTS: Keep and eye out for one of my future posts, “Oh The Places You’ll Go” to help you know where and where not to live.